All the fears you’ve had before…
I feared all the balls
I “played” soccer in first grade. Believe me, I use the term “play” very loosely, as I don’t think I touched the soccer ball one time, at least not during a game. I may have in practice, I don’t even remember. What I do remember, I was scared of the ball. All balls. (Get your head out of the gutter, I was in first grade! LOL)
I know that may sound super silly, but I was terrified of, not just soccer balls, but any balls. What would a ball do to me you ask? Well, I am not exactly sure, other than I feared the ball could hurt me. Maybe knock me over, injure me or kill me?
I also didn’t want to be near the ball for the shear terror that I might make a mistake and kick it in the wrong goal. (As if I could get it in anyway! LOL) God forbid the ball come my way and I need to kick it or something crazy like that.
Vulnerability
After more analysis through the years, I determined playing soccer, and other sports, left me feeling vulnerable and unprotected. That makes my fears a little less silly. Doesn’t it?
I believe in my mind I thought no matter what occurred on the soccer field I was losing in the end, so what I did was irrelevant. Kind of like me. At least that’s how I saw myself for the longest time, irrelevant.
All eyes on me
You see, we all do this, think only about ourselves, especially when we are younger. In my little first grade brain ALL eyes were on me, honed in like a missile to a target.
My fears may sound irrational to you, but aren’t most fears irrational? I think fear of balls may have been irrational, but think further to what those balls represented to me, possible pain and vulnerability. And, don’t most of us try to escape pain? Admit it.
Us human folk, we don’t like to be uncomfortable. We usually avoid unpleasantness at all costs. The mere thought of pain can turn the best of us to rocking in the fetal position, thumb in mouth and wondering when it will end.
We must learn to not focus on the fear or the pain, but the good that can await us on the other side. Childbirth is painful, but what waits on the other side is beautiful. Discomfort is a part of life we should embrace rather than avoid. The sooner we face the pain, the sooner we will overcome and come out better and stronger than ever before.
Learn from the pain
There is much to be learned from pain, physical, mental, emotional, psychological, and even financial.
There have been other times in my life when I experienced much more mental and emotional pain rather than physical pain. In the end I learned from this type of pain as well.
What is life trying to tell you through pain or your attempts to escape from pain?
There is truth and relevance in pain. Just like the Israelites circling the mountain for forty years. There was relevance in the journey. We often master things on the journey without even realizing it. The sooner you face the journey with no fear the sooner you will get to your destination and dreams.
Your lifetime journey will consist of various highs and lows. In my life, I want an abundance of “highs” and minimal lows. I do realize the lows will happen, but I say, the fewer the better. I am prepared for lows, but seek the highs (no not drugs! lol).
Starting today how can you use your fears for good? What can you do differently starting today that will help you face fears rather than run from them?
What can I do to help you? Feel free to email me directly at: queenbee@kellyreneebaker.com
Bee High on Life and life alone so you can live as a victorious champion for Christ.
Love,
Kelly
Queen Bee at Kelly Renee’ Baker LLC., Transformation and Success Coach; Certified Unhackable Coach; Certified Deeper Path Coach; Founding Partner at the John Maxwell Team — Certified Coach, Trainer and Speaker; Author of, Defeating Your Greatest Opponent
